Slowing Down After a Lifetime of Hustle
“It feels vulnerable to admit that, but I’m learning that slowing down isn’t just about rest; it’s about making room for the things that truly matter.”
Welcome to Sacred Musings, a space where I share reflections from the heart on love, life, caregiving, and the lessons that shape us into who we are. My hope is that these words bring comfort, perspective, and inspiration to anyone walking their own path of healing and growth.
For almost 20 years, my life has been nonstop. When I became a nurse in 2006, I went from being a housewife with a toddler to suddenly working nights in a hospital as a charge nurse. Soon after, I was divorced and raising my son with the help of my mother and father. From that point forward, I threw myself into work, two jobs, sometimes even three, just to keep everything moving. From 2007 to 2025, I didn’t really know another way of living.
Now, for the first time, I’m slowing down. I’m not working hospice full-time anymore, and as much as I wanted this change, I’ll be honest, it’s been hard to pull myself away from that constant busy rhythm. Being busy was survival, but it also became part of who I was. Letting go of it feels strange, like learning how to walk again.
So here I am, with hours in the day that aren’t scheduled or dictated by someone else’s dire needs. It feels foreign, but also freeing. And while I don’t have it all figured out yet, I know a few things I want to pour myself into:
Writing again, because words have always been where I find myself.
Taking care of my body and mind exercise, rest, nourishment things I used to squeeze in around long shifts. However, this last year has been transformative!
Traveling, because I’ve earned the right to see more of the world.
Repairing and strengthening relationships with family and friends.
And most of all, being honest about something I’ve kept tucked away for a while: I’d like to be married again. I want a loyal partner to share life with, someone to walk beside me in this new chapter.
It feels vulnerable to admit that, because I’ve carried the ‘strong Black woman’ mantle for so long. But I’m learning that slowing down isn’t just about rest; it’s about making room for the things that truly matter. And maybe, just maybe, this extra time I’ve been given is exactly what I need to welcome them in.
Sacred Musings is my space to reflect on life, love, and the spiritual lessons that come with being human. Thank you for walking this path with me.
